learning from people

may nabasa ako minsan na kapag bukas daw ang iyong isipan, marami kang matututunan sa  ibang tao.  narinig ko na rin ito sa tatay ko. sabi niya, may matututunan ka kahit sa pinaka-boring na tao kung matututo kang makinig.

kaya ngayon, i want to practice learning even from the person i'd rather be out of my sight:

1. be compassionate: when other people are having trouble, take time to see what you can contribute to make things right. (do not do what she does - nag people about how they suck or what should have been.  if you can't help, don't add to the stress)

2. learn how to focus: know your goal/s.  there are too many problems out there and you cannot solve all of them.  but you can contribute if you focus your energy on one or three related goals. wag kang maging butiki na pilit inaakap ang poste.

3. being generous and helpful is better appreciated than being right. this is mixed with my learnings from my lola madre who recently passed away.  she helped people in her quiet ways.  now that she has joined the Maker, people whom  she helped attested to how their lives where touched by our lola. that got me to thinking, am i doing my share of helping alleviate other people's sufferings? or am i just like some people who condoles and says words of "wisdom" and "awa" only to people she likes. 

Love is the answer

one Tuesday morning, while in a long queue at a terminal going to Manila, a woman approached and seems to be looking for something or someone. at that instance, i had a gut feel that she's trying to look for a "short-cut" to the long queue and she did. how? long story. that is not what i intend to write about.

as i was mulling over the thought of calling her attention and has every intention of humiliating her, i asked myself.  why would i want to do that? of course my answer is: because what she's doing is not right. there are other people in line who were there before her and it is not right for her to do that. how should i do it? tell her off.  and then, I thought of asking God. what could be a better motive or intention on calling on her bad behaviour other than to humiliate or to correct a wrongdoing? As I asked God, I was busy thinking of reasons why I need to "correct" her.  Then in the middle of my rationalizing, I stopped myself.  I tried to still my thoughts and let God talk to me.

and truly God answers questions asked in prayer.  He said, "love".

I realized, God does talk to us.  he answers our questions. The reason why we don't hear it is we are too busy with our own thoughts. We are busy rationalizing. We ask questions but are not really interested in the answer. Or we want His answers to coincide with what we think should be.

Love is the reason why we need to right what is wrong.  Its not for vendetta or to put others to shame. Nor is it for righteousness sake.  Parents discipline their children not because they want to punish, but because they want their children to walk the straight path, because they love their children (most I think).

This is actually scary and exciting.  I am excited that I could talk to God and He'll answer.  I am scared because I don't think I'm ready for His answers. I am holding on to my "idols" as Bro. Bo said.

love is a choice

nung maging tayo, nangako ako na ikaw na ang huli.  bakit ko nga ba nasabi yun?

bago ka dumating sa buhay ko, dumaan na ako sa maraming relasyon.  mga relasyong nagsimula sa masidhing damdamin, na natapos din sa masidhing pagkamuhi.  mga relasyong natapos sa hindi magandang paraan. mga relasyong nasira dahil sa tawag ng bagong damdamin.

ngayong binabalikan ko ang alaala ng lumipas na relasyon, napag isip-isip ko na nagpatangay sila sa pang akit ng bago.  at nagpadala sa damdaming ito ika nga ng awit ni Sampaguita - "...isip ay nalilito, pag nakakita ng bago..."

hindi ko ipinangakong hindi titingin sa iba, at di ko rin ipinangakong hindi titibok ang puso sa bagong kakilala. mabuti naman at hindi ko ginawa yun. kasi lagi akong napapatingin sa iba, at may pagkakataon pang nahuhulog ang loob ko sa kanila.

ang puso, may kapasidad siyang magmahal ng marami. hindi ba at mahal natin ang ating magulang, ang ating mga kapatid, ang ating mga kaibigan? pero mahal natin sila ng magkakaibang intensity at lalim. oo nga, pwedeng magmahal ng marami.

magmamahal at magmamahal ako ng iba. pero ikaw at ikaw ang pipiliin ko. mananatili na lang silang lahat sa puso ko. pero ikaw, mananatili ka sa puso, isip at buhay ko.

weekend bummer

weekend...laba, linis (?) at bumming. matagal-tagal na rin na parang walang mangyayari sa business life ko. konting benta, konting invite, maraming rejections-tuloy ang buhay. kailangan ko ng energizer. maka attend nga ng refresher.

hearing songs in my head

I don't know about my fellow zumba enthusiasts, but I keep hearing these songs in my head - rude, bailando, and other songs I don't know the title of but keeps hearing during zumba sessions. What's more, I keep on seeing in my head the "moves" ng zumba instructor. ano kaya yun?

on building relationships

i am never one who is good at building relationships nor maintaining or keeping one.  one characteristic pa naman ito ng isang good networker.  looking back, this is one of the things i've learned when i was young.  never get too attached to anybody.

my parents broke up when i was 6 years old.  although the past should not define us, i'm still finding it hard to establish ties.  once umalis na ang tao for whatever reasons, wala na akong makitang reason to keep up with them.  nag iiba ang buhay natin. iba na ang buhay nila. ano pa ang common grounds namin?  kaya its always a sad occasion when someone leaves.  because it means that is the end of the road for us.

and now, i'm into network marketing,  in one blog shared by my upline, building relationships is not only necessary but a must when one wants to succeed in this business.  for one, network marketing is about building relationships - knowing and understanding other people's needs and wants.  from this understanding comes the ability to help them.

one thing siguro that would help me is not making myself the issue.  lumayo man ang friends, hindi dapat malungkot kasi hindi naman sila umalis dahil ayaw nila sa akin.  circumstances made them leave not because i made them.  not because i'm inadequate to make them stay. so why should that hurt me? everybody needs to find their own place in the sun. ako nga ayoko ng natatali sa isang lugar or isang situation. not because i do not want that situation, but because there are other things i want to do.  but at the end of the day, i still long to go home to what is familiar to find rest.

and so i resolve to resolve my issues on building, keeping and maintaining relationships.  not because i need them for my business, but because i'm genuinely concerned about them and have their best interest at heart.

dreaming of shoes

medyo nababagabag lang ako sa dreams ko ng shoes.

siguro mga 3 to 5 days (or nights) ago, i dreamed someone asking me to try on a pair of shoes.  the shoes were not really me so i declined.  i said its too big. but she insisted. and so i wore it and it fits! then she asked me to take it off and gave me another pair of shoes. yun daw ang bigay niya sa akin kasi magkasing size lang naman daw yun nang pinasukat niya. it was a girly flat shoes, i tried it on and it was comfy.

then last night (morning na actually kasi  morning na ako natulog), i dreamed that a man gave me leather sandals. this man i supposedly know is an ardent suitor (in my dreams). i tried it on and it feels comfy. but had this strange feeling that if i accept it, that would give him the notion that we're an item. so i talked to him and asked if he thinks accepting the shoes means accepting his love (ngarks!) and he said - aren't we? so i returned the shoes to him and told him i am not in love with him because i'm in love with somebody else. so i wrapped the sandals in plastic and returned it to his bag.

the thing is, why am i dreaming of shoes? will there be a change in my role in the coming year? o ibabalik ako sa dati kong division at gagawin ko ang dati kng ginagawa? sinoli ko kasi yung shoes. hehehe...pero in my earlier dream, i accepted the my-not-usual shoes which is comfy din naman.

Glutathione

Ano ang Glutathione o Gluta ? Una itong nakilala sa madla bilang pampaputi at pampakinis. Sumikat ito dahil maraming Pinoy ang gustong pumuti at kuminis. PERO, dahil hindi rin malinaw kung ano nga ang gluta, naglipana rin ang mga misconceptions tungkol dito. May nagsabi na nakakatakot daw ito, kasi kung kaya nitong paputiin ang balat, ano kaya ang epekto nito sa ating atay? Hindi rin kaya pumuti? Akala ng marami ito ay isang bleaching agent katulad ng mga ginagamit sa damit para maalis ang dumi. O yung mga pinapahid sa mukha para matanggal ang mga pekas. Pero ano nga ba ang Glutathione at ano ang nagagawa nito?

Ang Gluta ay ay binubuo ng 3 amino acids: Cysteine, Glutamine at Glycin. Natural na may gluta tayo sa ating cells. Ano ang cell? Ang cell ay ang pinakamaliit na unit ng ating katawan. Ang ating buong katawan ay binubuo ng mga cells. Ang ating organ – puso, atay, lapay, balat, baga pati buto ay binubuo ng mga cells. Ganun naman pala at mayroon tayong gluta sa ating cells, bakit kailangan pa natin uminom ng supplement na gluta? Unfortunately mga kapatid, nade deplete ito dahil sa ating exposure sa polusyon, stress at unhealthy lifestyle tulad ng pagpupuyat, pag-inom ng alcoholic beverages, paninigarilyo, etc. Ang pagkonti ng gluta sa ating katawan ay nagdudulot ng paghina ng ating immune system o ang natural na panlaban ng ating katawan sa sakit. Sa totoo lang, pwede naman na mapanatili ang anti-oxidant na ito sa ating katawan basta sundin natin ang mga ito: wag i-expose ang sarili sa pollution, baguhin ang ating lifestyle – bawal magpuyat, manigarilyo, uminom; at palaging kumain ng pagkaing masustansya sa araw-araw, tulad ng pagkain ng 7 hanggang 13 klase ng prutas at gulay at iwasan ang stress. POSIBLE BA YUN? Posible ba na lumabas ka ng bahay at hindi makalanghap ng usok? Posible ba na kumain ka ng 7-13 prutas at gulay ARAW-ARAW? Possible rin ba na hindi ka makaranas ng stress? Kung para sa iyo ang sagot ay oo, congratulations. Kung hindi naman, ito ang alternative – kapatid, labanan ang sakit sa pamamagitan ng pagpapalakas ng iyong resistensya. Huwag nang hintayin na magkasakit ka pa o lumala pa ang sakit mo. Ikaw ba magpapayong kung kelan basang-basa ka na ng ulan? Di ba pag umuulan, bubuksan mo muna ang payong bago ka lumabas ng bahay (o ng jeep, kotse, eroplano, opisina)? Parang ganito ang gluta, payong na magpoprotekta sa iyo laban sa ulan ng sakit. Nitong nakaraang Sabado (Nov.2) umatend ako ng Royale Product Presentation. Nakilala ko si Dr. Jenelyn Sedutan, isang paediatrician at Royalista. Ayon kay Dr. Sedutan, ang gluta ang nagpo protect sa ating cells sa mga “free radicals” na sumisira sa malulusog na cells. Ang free radicals ay mga abnormal cells na dumidikit sa normal cells at ginagawang katulad niya – abnormal. At pag dumami na ang mga abnormal na cells sa katawan mo ano ang pwedeng mangyari? Panghihina, pagkakasakit, pre-mature ageing at marami pang ibang klase ng sakit. TANONG: Sino ba ang taong sakitin na may magandang kutis?

Sinabi ko sa isa kong post – kanino ka maniniwala, sa mga artistang endorser ng produkto o sa mga karaniwang tao na gumamit na nito at napatunayang epektibo? Si Dr. Sedutan, nagpatotoo sa bisa ng glutathione (taken with Royale C). Bago nating Royalista si Dr. Sedutan, siya ay may PERSISTENT CHRONIC ASTHMA. Severe ang kanyang mga asthma attacks. At sa takot sa pag-atake ng asthma, katabi na niya sa pagtulog ang banig-banig na gamot sa asthma. Adik na daw siya sa solbutamol. Halos wala na nga daw epekto ito sa kanya. Kaya nung inalok sa kanya ang gluta, sinubukan niya ito. Lahat naman nasubukan na niya, bakit hindi ang gluta? After ilang bottles, napansin niya na hindi na siya masyadong inaatake ng hika. Napansin din niya na hindi na niya nauubos ang banig-banig na gamot na katabi niya sa pagtulog. At ito ang dahilan kung bakit siya naging Royalista.

ITO ANG PARA SA IYO: Huwag nang hintaying igupo ka ng sakit, agapan ito habang maaga pa. Palakasin ang iyong resistensya para labanan ang sakit. At ang taong malusog ang katawan, may BONUS na maganda at makinis na kutis. Ang gandang bonus diba? #clearskin, #glutathione,#gluta #asthma, #healthycells, #antioxidant#fightfreeradicals, #boostimmunity

my thoughts on love and relationships

watched an episode of face the people where the "guests" if that is what they call them, is a man and a woman in a may-december love affair.  and whose affair is rejected by the people around them. namely the man's son and the woman'a auntie.

ay naku, bat ba kailangan kong ipaliwanag ang context? ang isyu lang ayaw ng anak kasi lolokohin lang daw ang tatay niya. at ayaw ng auntie kasi matanda na yung lalaki.   matanda na nga ang tatay mo boy, marunong na yun mag isip para sa sarili niya.  and it so unfair to pit yourself against the girl. sya o ikaw? bakit? kaya mo bang paligayahin ang tatay mo in a way na magagawa ng asawa? besides, the very reason why the father hired a household help (yep! the girl is a household help.  and it is one of the reasons that the son don't like the girl - hindi siya ka-level nila kasi katulong lang) is that because the son cannot be depended on to keep house. laging nasa barkada sa labas. 

kaya naman daw niya mag trabaho, aalis na lang daw ng bahay. go ahead boy. dapat matagal mo nang ginawa yun.  the thing is, that is emotional blackmail. last ditch effort to sway someone (in this case a father) to do his bid. for what? lolokohin lang ang tatay? matanda na yun. in case lokohin nga lang siya, problema na niya yun. at wala ka sa position to tell your father what not and what to do.  just like you, di ba hindi ka rin nagpapasabi kung ano ang dapat at hindi mo dapat gawin? di ba ginagawa mo ang gusto mo kasi you think that's right for you.

okay na mag worry ka at magsabi sa tatay mo kung ano ang tingin mo. but in the end, its still his life. if he makes wrong decisions - well, that's what families are for - to support each other and NOT to control each other.