Monday, October 28, 2013

my thoughts on love and relationships

watched an episode of face the people where the "guests" if that is what they call them, is a man and a woman in a may-december love affair.  and whose affair is rejected by the people around them. namely the man's son and the woman'a auntie.

ay naku, bat ba kailangan kong ipaliwanag ang context? ang isyu lang ayaw ng anak kasi lolokohin lang daw ang tatay niya. at ayaw ng auntie kasi matanda na yung lalaki.   matanda na nga ang tatay mo boy, marunong na yun mag isip para sa sarili niya.  and it so unfair to pit yourself against the girl. sya o ikaw? bakit? kaya mo bang paligayahin ang tatay mo in a way na magagawa ng asawa? besides, the very reason why the father hired a household help (yep! the girl is a household help.  and it is one of the reasons that the son don't like the girl - hindi siya ka-level nila kasi katulong lang) is that because the son cannot be depended on to keep house. laging nasa barkada sa labas. 

kaya naman daw niya mag trabaho, aalis na lang daw ng bahay. go ahead boy. dapat matagal mo nang ginawa yun.  the thing is, that is emotional blackmail. last ditch effort to sway someone (in this case a father) to do his bid. for what? lolokohin lang ang tatay? matanda na yun. in case lokohin nga lang siya, problema na niya yun. at wala ka sa position to tell your father what not and what to do.  just like you, di ba hindi ka rin nagpapasabi kung ano ang dapat at hindi mo dapat gawin? di ba ginagawa mo ang gusto mo kasi you think that's right for you.

okay na mag worry ka at magsabi sa tatay mo kung ano ang tingin mo. but in the end, its still his life. if he makes wrong decisions - well, that's what families are for - to support each other and NOT to control each other.

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